My two-year old daughter is absolutely obsessed with films. She switches between each one and becomes completely obsessed. I didn’t realise that toddler obsessions was a thing until I had a toddler myself.

Parenting.com writes about how obsessions are a way of them seeking routine and security which is very normal. The hard thing is monitoring how much you allow your child to indulge in their obsessions.

My daughter would watch some films on repeat all day if I let her. So screen time definitely has to be monitored. Before I had any babies I thought I would let them watch less TV than they do. I wrote about it in my post here.

Current film favourites

The one that is her current number favourite, is the film Trolls. She loves it so much she would watch the film every single day. She prefers the Trolls Holiday version but can quite happily sit through the full film.

Before Trolls the obsession was Moana and before that Frozen. This is my poem for my two-year old toddler.

Toddler Obsessions (a poem)

We’ve been out today,
So at home we will stay,
Its time to make a decision,
What do you want to watch on television.

Lets watch a flick,
You can choose one quick.
Moana you cry,
Ok one more time I sigh.

All the songs we know,
How far I’ll go.
Eyes glued to the screen,
Don’t try to interveen.

Sometimes we turn to Frozen,
So with the dvd it goes in.
A world of ice and snow.
We all know Let it go.

You changed the film somehow.
Trolls is a favourite now.
With colour, sparkles and glitter.
It gives Mum a break to check out Twitter.

Toddler obsessions watching films

If you enjoyed this poem see some others I’ve written;

Snowy Days
Tired mum needs a break
Daddy’s Home

Thanks for reading.

As I watch my two-year old daughter play with her friends, it got me thinking how much adults could learn from their friendships. There is a wonderful freedom to friendships at the toddler age, which gets lost as we grow older. So what can we learn from toddler friendships?

Toddler Friendships

It’s good to have a giggle

Toddler friendshipsToddlers together can find the simplest of things funny. It’s such a positive experience having a giggle and laugh with friends.

Us mums can sometimes get too bogged down with all the serious stuff in life. We need to follow the lead of our toddlers and laugh more with our friends.

Its fun to be silly

Like having a giggle, being silly is definitely something toddlers enjoy doing together. From blowing raspberries, jumping in muddy puddles to dancing to a favourite tune, being silly is a lot of fun!

We lose a lot of our silliness as we grow older, but even if its singing along to some karaoke, doing some exercise or playing a game there are ways to be silly as an adult with friends.

Learn from your friends

Toddlers are always learning from each other, taking the time to watch how their friends approach a challenge.

We should never stop learning, especially from those close to us. Learning from your friends is an important bonding exercise as it empowers everyone.

Try new things together

Toddlers are constantly trying out new things, and they love doing this with their friends. Sometimes is the simplest things that give them most pleasure, such as trying out a new play park with a friend.

As adults there is plenty of new things we could do with our friends. From visiting a new restaurant, going on a day trip together or visiting a spa if you can get a day away from the kids.

Eat together to build bonds

Toddlers are constantly eating so it’s no surprise they spend a lot of time eating with their friends.

Eating together with friends is important for adults as well, as its builds bonds. The University of Chicago ran a study of how eating together helps builds trust, which is fundamental for all friendships.

Rest when you need to

Toddlers are not afraid to tell us when they have had enough and they just need to rest. Spending time with friends can be tiring so sometimes we just need a break.

We shouldn’t be afraid to have a rest or break from our friends to regain our energy. A true friend will understand when we need rest.

 

Becoming a mum means that your own friendships do suffer a bit as you juggle the family and home. Your children’s life take over and their friendships take priority (at all ages not just the toddler friendships). Its can be extremely important for your own self-care to focus on your own friendships when you can.

There are lots of things I didn’t think I would do as a parent which inevitably now I do. Before having children I’ll admit I didn’t realise how hard parenthood really is. You only really ever see a snapshot of a parents daily life. There is so much that happens when no one else is watching.

You never know how much sleep the parent had the night before. Whether they had to endure a massive temper tantrum just getting shoes on. Or if they haven’t even had a chance to grab a coffee that morning.

Things I didn’t think I would do as a parent

Let them watch TV

Watching TV face

Before kids I assumed that I would greatly limit the amount of TV my children watch. I had vaguely heard of the channel CBeebies but hadn’t yet appreciated how important it would become in my life.

CBeebies has been a life saver at times. Especially this year during the early days of bringing a baby home, to a house with a toddler. TV became the only way to pacify my toddler so I was able to spend thirty minutes with the baby.

I do try to limit the amount my children watch, but in these winter month’s it’s not always easy. You’ve been up since six, fed them, taken them out, fed them again, put them down for a nap, done an activity at home….tv becomes a very helpful friend to occupy them for an hr or so while you get jobs done.

After all my efforts I probably haven’t succeeded in limiting TV as much as I hoped As at ten months old my baby’s first word was Peppa Pig!

 

Eat anything apart from healthy snacks

With my first-born I was very strict on only feeding healthy snacks. Until her first birthday she had never tasted any chocolate, crisps or biscuits. Snacks included vegetable sticks, rice cakes and fruit.

Move on two years and my ten month old has already pinched crisps from plates, had buttons shoved in her mouth from sister and devoured a biscuit on first sight.

It becomes an impossible task to keep a second child away from ‘treats’ if their siblings are exposed to them. Unhealthy snacks are everywhere and always attract young eyes.

During the Christmas season its harder than ever. To counter balance the treats I try to feed them healthy balanced meals. In the hope that they understand that treats, are treats, and balance is best.

Listen to children’s music all the time

My daughters love listening to children’s music. Everything from nursery rhymes for the baby to pop songs sung by Justin Fletcher (aka Mr Tumble).

Whilst pregnant with my first born, I remember saying to my own mother ‘I won’t be spending all my time listening to children’s music’. She likes to remind me of this, when we have had ‘Head Shoulders Knees and Toes’ on repeat for thirty minutes.

Parenthood is full of choices and decisions, some big and small. Now I am a parent I try not to judge anyone’s individual choices for their family. We all go down different paths and as long as the child is safe, cared for and happy, there are no rights and wrongs.

 

Is there anything you didn’t think you would do as a parent?
It would be great to get your comments, so please share below.

This post covers my reasons for creating a list of chores for a three year old.

I am shortly due to return to work after my second maternity leave. When I’m back I know that I will be busier than ever juggling home and work life. Currently we have no help in the home, so all household chores are split between myself and my husband.

My eldest daughter is approaching her third birthday and she is growing more independent every day. I would like to see her gradually take more responsibility for herself during her third year, to take the burden off me a little bit.

This got me thinking about what chores might be age appropriate for a three year old. Obviously at the turn of three she will still need a lot of supervision. However I believe she should now be capable to start completing some chores on her own with help.

I don’t expect perfection from her, which I don’t believes exists anyway. What I would like is some sign of effort from her to take ownership of her own chores.

Suitable chores for a three year old

These chores are designed to encourage indepence and self ownership.

Personal Chores

  • Help in making the bed each morning.
  • Tidying away toys after play in both bedroom and living space.
  • Put any rubbish into the appropriate bin.
  • Taking own coat and shoes off when arriving home and putting them in the correct place.
  • Putting clothes into laundry basket at the end of each day.

Home Chores

  • Helping set the table, even if it’s just carrying cutlery from kitchen.
  • Placing used cutlery and plates (plastic only) into sink/dishwasher.
  • Assisting with routine pet care, including putting their food out and brushing pets.
  • Joining in with making breakfast, from pouring out cereal, getting milk from fridge or choosing yoghurt.
  • Dusting the skirting boards with a sock.
  • Helping pick leaves or pulling weeds in the garden when weather is nice.

 

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Soft play centres are great places to go with the kids when its raining or if you have half a day to kill. They are especially good for toddlers as they provide a secure, safe place so they can really let off some steam. Each centre will have it’s own unique set of rules you have to follow. But I think there are some universal unwritten rules for taking your toddler, which should help you get the most out of your visit.

My 10 rules for soft play with toddlers

1. Always take socks for the kids – even in the middle on the summer you don’t want your kids running around with bare feet.

2. Always take your own socks – it will just be your luck that your child is the one who gets stuck at the top when you’re wearing flip-flops!

3. Avoid half term (if you can) – the age demographic completely changes as the older kids are let loose.

4. Secure your territory – it’s key to get table in a prime position so you can watch your kids whilst enjoying a cuppa.

5. Take your own snacks – if they have a cafe some places won’t let you eat your own food, but if they do it’s a lot cheaper and convenient to take your own.

6. Work out where the toilets are when you arrive – with all the excitement it is highly likely you won’t get told your child needs a wee until the last-minute. You need to know the quickest route.

7. Keep an eye on what your child’s up to – you don’t want to be the Mum who is completely oblivious to any misbehaving.

8. Meet up with friends – you can have a chat and a drink, and there’s less chance you will be dragged on to the equipment if they have a buddy.

9. Go during your toddlers most active time – the key to soft play is to get your little one get as worn out as possible, so they have a long nap once you leave.

10. Finally, note what time you arrived – most soft play centres have a limit on how long you can stay and they will find you if you over stay.

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