We are now in December so I’m thinking about returning to work after maternity leave. This is my second maternity leave, after returning in between my babies for a year.

I feel very lucky too have been able to spend the first eleven months of my baby’s life completely devoted to her. Now the practicalities of life kick in and back to work I must go.

Having experienced returning to work once before I know that it will be a rollercoaster. Some days everything runs well and goes to plan. Then other days everything seems to go wrong and s*** hits the fan! I’m just hoping for more days of the former, rather than the later.

Based on my experience these are my top tips for returning to work.

Returning to work after maternity leave tips

  • Plan ahead your daily routine – including what time you need to drop kids off and pick up
    • Do a trial run before you start to check your timings if unsure
  • Talk to your child in a positive way about their new childcare – even babies will be able to pick up the sentiment in your voice and tone
  • Prepare everyone’s things the night before – getting a baby/toddler changed is hard at the best of times, so best to have clothes and bags prepared
  • Try and keep drop offs quick – a long goodbye doesn’t help you or your child
  • Dont be afraid be contact your childcare – just ring or text in the day to check on them if feeling anxious
  • Keep busy – don’t punish yourself if you realise you haven’t thought about your child for ten minutes

 

Go easy on yourself, it’s a massive change for the whole family. There is a lot going on with the new schedule, new relationships and work dynamics. It may get harder before it get’s easier, so take each day as it comes.

If your feel lack of confidence when you are back, talk to your HR department, as they may have services to help you. It’s important to have self-care during this time of change, so do talk about any issues you’re facing.

Also, if you need any help on the financial side of returning to work, contact the Money Advice Service who have lots of information.

Good luck.
I know I’ll need it when the time comes.

When you become a parent for the first time, you suddenly have no time for yourself and it’s exhausting. As the kids grow it’s so important to take a moment for yourself and have a break. Having a rest and time away from the kids is part of self-care. Sometimes you might have to reach out to others to get the break as it’s not always going to be handed to you.

This is my poem for all the tired mums out there who just need a break.

Mum needs a break

Tired mum,
It’s ok to cry.
The days are long
But the years wiz by.

Time with the kids,
Is more precious than gold.
But relentless it can seem,
And makes you feel old.

Sometimes it can feel,
That your house is a zoo.
So it’s ok to take space,
Your allowed to be you.

A moment alone,
To sit and drink a tea,
Have a sleep or a shower,
A chance to be free.

You need a break,
A chance to recoup,
A moment to relax,
Without the whole troupe.

Then minding the kids,
Doesn’t feel like a chore,
You regain your energy,
And can enjoy it once more.

The kids need a mum,
Who gets time to rest.
Whose happy and relaxed,
And doesn’t get stressed.

Ask someone close,
To look after your cub,
Go out for a while,
Or soak in the tub.

Parenting is tough,
Not a piece of cake.
So put away the mum guilt,
And enjoy your break.

If you enjoyed this poem I also wrote one called Mum needs two minutes.

Thanks for reading.

 

Mummascribbles

 

Tammymum

Let me start by explaining what the Liebester New Blogger Award is. The award is shared between new bloggers. It is designed to help bloggers promote each other. Nominated bloggers are given a list of questions to answer, so others can get to know them better. Then in turn the nominated blogger goes on to nominate more new bloggers.

I was very kindly nominated by Cooking With Kids. As a mum who finds it hard to think of new things to cook everyday, this blog is fantastic, suggesting some delicious recipes. I will be trying out her Mince Cakes recipe in the run up to Christmas.

I have only been blogging since the beginning of November. At the moment I have a very small following so a platform like the Liebester New Blogger Award is a pleasure to be part of.

Liebester New Blogger Award

My questions:

1. Why did you start blogging?

I am currently on my second maternity leave, and will be returning to work in a months time. Before I go back I wanted to build up my confidence and have some time just for me. I had debated starting a blog for a year or so. It was only when I met a mum who had a blog herself that I finally decided to give it a whirl. When I’m back at work I hope to continue blogging as my hobby.

2. What is your favourite post from your own blog? Why?

My favourite post is Dealing With Diastasis, as I think its something a lot of mums don’t realise they can do something about. When we have a baby, mums often wrongly assume they can’t do anything to regain control of their bodies. Through the Holistic Core Restore I was able to improve my own diastasis, so I hope that other mums are inspired to do the same.

3. If you could time travel where would you go, and why?

I don’t think I would want to go into the future. Instead I would go back to the 80s so I could see some of my favourites in concert. Michael Jackson, George Michael and Prince.

4. Who is someone who greatly inspires you? Why?

I am inspired by strong women who follow their passions. Michelle Obama is up there on the inspiration list, as she has done some incredible things for women.

5. Do you have any pets? Share a picture if you can.

I have two furbabies, Max (Black and White) and Oscar (Ginger). They will be turning six next year and I’ve had them since they were kittens.

6. Where is your favourite place in the world?

Home with my little family. It is everything I ever dreamed of in life. Even though I don’t get any space anymore I wouldn’t change anything.

7. What is your favourite food? And your least favourite?

Favourite food would have to be chocolate. I could eat tonnes of it, if only if wasn’t so calorific!

Least favourite food is cream. I don’t like creamy sauces or cream based deserts. Apart from ice cream!

8. Share one of your guilty pleasures.

Entering competitions! I have been entering them since I was 18 and have won some great prizes including wide-screen TVs, trip to Bovey Castle, mobile phones, a cruise and teeth whitening!

9. What are you most proud of in your life?

I am very proud to be a Mum, proud to have run the London marathon, proud to have travelled independently around South America and proud to have won Media Week Top 30 under 30.

10. What is the first thing you would do if you won the lottery?

First thing would be pay of mortgage! Second book a holiday to Disney World.

11. Describe yourself in three words.

Organised, kind and happy.

My Nominees for the Liebester New Bloggers Award

Growing Up Two

Awaybies

My Baby and Me

Mum of the Tribe

Keep Mum

For my nominees, please read on and keep the Lester Award going.

The rules are as follows:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
  2. Display the award on your blog — I’ve used it as the header image for this post.
  3. Answer 11 questions provided to you by the person who nominated you.
  4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.
  5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 1000 followers.
  6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.
  7. List these rules in your post (You can copy and paste from here.) Once you have written and published it, you then have to:
  8. Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

Here are your questions:

1. Why did you start blogging?
2. What is your favourite post from your own blog? Why?
3. What is your favourite place to visit in the UK?
4. Who is someone who greatly inspires you? Why?
5. Do you have any pets? Share a picture if you can.
6. What celebrity would you most like to be?
7. What is your favourite food? And your least favourite?
8. Share your worst habit.
9. What are you most proud of in your life?
10. What is the first thing you would do if you won the lottery?
11. Describe yourself in three words.

 

Please feel free to follow the links to my nominated blogs.
Thankyou for reading my blog.

Liebster Award

Across the world there is one thing that stays true, that parenting is both joyful but hard for everyone. We all have coping mechanisms to get us through our daily lives. Parenting is all about learning and trying different things and we should be doing more to learn from each other. Scandinavian countries consistently deliver some of the highest scores for childhood happiness. As I spent the first few years of my life in Norway, I am intrigued to see what I can learn to improve my children’s happiness. I have done some research to dig out some of the most fascinating parenting tips from Scandinavia.

Parenting tips from Scandinavia

Daily Outdoor Time

In all Scandinavian countries is it the norm for children to get outdoor exposure everyday. Even in the mist of winter children and even babies are encouraged to wrap up and get outside. Babies will often be left to nap outside in their prams. Parents believe that getting outside daily is good for your health.

Hands-off Parenting

Freedom and independence are key pillars of parenting in the Nordic’s. Children are encouraged to explore, play and learn themselves. Scandinavian countries are some of the safest in the world, so parents are more relaxed about letting their children go free.

Close Connections

In Iceland as most people live in areas that have a village feel, connections with family and friends are paramount. In Sweden the government helps new mums connect with other mums in their local area. Parenting is seen as a role for the whole community.

Childcare

Most children in Scandinavian countries attend child care. The government heavily subsidises childcare from one, so parents can work without worry of the cost. They encourage free play and don’t push any academics until they are a lot older.

 

Hopefully you are able to use some of these tips Scandinavia parents and they are of use on your parenting journey.

 

Tammymum

When anyone thinks of mastitis they think about it occurring early in the breastfeeding journey. However as I’ve personally experienced it can happen at any point.

Mastitis is an inflammation of the breast tissue caused by breastfeeding. The NHS say that it usually happens within the first three months of feeding.

I’ve now had mastitis three times during the last 10 months and it never gets easier. In fact dealing with the symptoms only becomes harder as your baby gets more active. I have considered moving completely to a bottle but once the pain clears I have found it easier to keep going with breastfeeding.

In my experience there are a few things you can do at home when you first notice symptoms.

Please note I am not a doctor or midwife this is purely how I personally have dealt with mastitis. If in any doubt go straight to your doctor and they will access you and may subscribe antibiotics to deal with any infection.

Home care to ease Mastitis

Take a hot bath or shower – heat is your friend with mastitis. The water and heat should ease some pain.

Comb your boob – this sounds like a weird one but use a soft brush or comb to try to ease pressure in your ducts. Do this in the bath or shower if more comfortable.

Use a hot water bottle – again heat will help ease some of the pain.

Feed on the affected boob – I know this sounds madness when you are suffering but it’s honestly the best thing that will help clear your ducts.

Use a pump – if you can’t bear the thought of feeding your baby, use a pump to help clear the blocked ducts.

Take painkillers – paracetamol or ibuprofen or both if you are able to do and are not allergic. This will be the fastest thing to bring down a temperature/fever.

Have rest – not easy at all with little ones but your body will be exhausted. Try and get some help from family or a friend so you can at least have a nap.

Rest with the furbaby while my other baby sleeps

Hopefully trying out these home care techniques will help minimise your symptoms, if you are unlucky enough to develop mastitis.

 

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