As I watch my two-year old daughter play with her friends, it got me thinking how much adults could learn from their friendships. There is a wonderful freedom to friendships at the toddler age, which gets lost as we grow older. So what can we learn from toddler friendships?
It’s good to have a giggle
Us mums can sometimes get too bogged down with all the serious stuff in life. We need to follow the lead of our toddlers and laugh more with our friends.
Its fun to be silly
Like having a giggle, being silly is definitely something toddlers enjoy doing together. From blowing raspberries, jumping in muddy puddles to dancing to a favourite tune, being silly is a lot of fun!
We lose a lot of our silliness as we grow older, but even if its singing along to some karaoke, doing some exercise or playing a game there are ways to be silly as an adult with friends.
Learn from your friends
Toddlers are always learning from each other, taking the time to watch how their friends approach a challenge.
We should never stop learning, especially from those close to us. Learning from your friends is an important bonding exercise as it empowers everyone.
Try new things together
Toddlers are constantly trying out new things, and they love doing this with their friends. Sometimes is the simplest things that give them most pleasure, such as trying out a new play park with a friend.
As adults there is plenty of new things we could do with our friends. From visiting a new restaurant, going on a day trip together or visiting a spa if you can get a day away from the kids.
Eat together to build bonds
Toddlers are constantly eating so it’s no surprise they spend a lot of time eating with their friends.
Eating together with friends is important for adults as well, as its builds bonds. The University of Chicago ran a study of how eating together helps builds trust, which is fundamental for all friendships.
Rest when you need to
Toddlers are not afraid to tell us when they have had enough and they just need to rest. Spending time with friends can be tiring so sometimes we just need a break.
We shouldn’t be afraid to have a rest or break from our friends to regain our energy. A true friend will understand when we need rest.
Becoming a mum means that your own friendships do suffer a bit as you juggle the family and home. Your children’s life take over and their friendships take priority (at all ages not just the toddler friendships). Its can be extremely important for your own self-care to focus on your own friendships when you can.