A month ago or so I wrote a post about called things I didn’t think I would do as a parent. I put together this list as there were many preconceptions I had of how to parent before I came one. This post is looking at answering the question what makes a good parent.
Whilst being back at work (reasons for returning to work) I have being exposed to more people who are still pre-kids. This is a big change from my maternity days. Over the last year I spent the majority of days surrounded by mums, dads, grandparents and childminders at various baby groups. I’ve been surprised to overhear a few conversations from these pre-kids about what makes a good parent. There is a lot of judgmental people out there who think they would do a better job.
As I have some experience (although I still feel like a learner!) these are my thoughts about what actually makes a good parent.
What makes a good parent (in my opinion!)
One who listens to their instincts
Parenting is full of decisions. Some small and daily decisions such as what to feed kids for lunch. Then there’s the big stuff like where to send your kid to school or nursery through to how strict you want to be with them about certain things. A good parent is one that listens to their own instincts when making decisions.
It’s good to take advice from others and look at different points of view but ultimately you just need to be confident in your own choices. There is no right and wrong to many parenting decisions, just find what works best for your family.
One who admits their own faults
Nobody is perfect all the time, we are all human with faults. I believe that we should show our own children our own faults so that they can understand and learn from vulnerability and humility.
Depending on what they are you might want to position what your tell your child appropriately. But don’t be afraid to let your child see the many facets of you.
One who spends quality time with their children
We are all busy individuals and life only gets busier with children. Whatever time we get to spend with them should be quality time. This means children are getting full adult attention. So put down the mobile phone and go out, spend time talking one on one to really embrace quality time.
One who encourages their child to express themselves
We all have preconceived ideas of what our children will become. However children are unlikely to become exactly who we expect.
We need to allow our children to learn to express their true self so that they build confidence and independence.
One who looks after their child’s health
As the primary caregivers for children, parents have the ultimate responsibility for monitoring our children’s health. Each child will have their own unique needs and it is up to parents to look after their child so their mental and physical health is at the optimum level possible.
One who is patient
Children at any age can be very testing. Patience can be a difficult to find in some situations but on the whole the more patience you can have as a parent the better.
One who shows themselves self-care
We will all slip up sometimes and find ourselves not giving everything to our parenting role. The most important thing is to be self-aware and rectify any behaviours. Showing your self some self-care is key to being the best you can be for you and your family.
Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed my blog post.
I’m sure you’re doing a great job being a good parent for your family.